1. Do what you love.
Everyone loves to do something, when you indulge yourself in your love you improve the way you feel about yourself. You improve your self esteem.
2. Help others out.
Nothing makes you feel a warm glow than when you unselfishly help others. of course you can argue that this in itself is selfish, but if you take that line of thought you must think that existence is selfish. Forget that. Just do a good deed, help someone out, doesn’t have to be big and it doesn’t have to cost any money.
3. Acknowledge your strengths
There is no one who has no strengths. Everyone is good at something, know what your good at and give yourself a pat on the back. Do things that bring this quality out into the open. Excercise it, make it stronger.
4. Don’t put up with crap.
There is no reason you should tolerate other people being mean to you. Even if they say they are doing it with love. Make sure people know they should be nice to you and if they refuse, walk away from them.
5. Drop your negative friends.
Hang out with people who are positive and support you. It may be fun to bitch and moan but if you hang out with these types of people you will eventually become one of them. You may have noticed that people who bitch and moan are never happy.
6. Do your research
A lof of self help books are a waste of time in the sense that the only person who can change you is you. Reading even this blog post will not change you unless you get emotionally involved with the information. Which is really hard as it’s really dry and boring. Go read biographies of people you respect, people who do positvive things and attain huge success. Learn from the master not the self help guru who is always in debt.
7. Learn to accept compliments.
It’s hard to accept a compliment and not to dismiss it as being ridiculous. Someone has an opinion and it should be respected, even if you do not argree with it. If people think good about you then maybe you should too.
8. Include positivity in your life.
I’m not talking an airy fairy chant in the mirror whilst naked. I mean take a positive slant on everything automatically. The meat pie you just bit in to may contain maggots, but maggots contain a lot of protien. OK that’s a bit extreme but you get the point.
9. Compare yourself against yourself.
If you look at how you were yesterday and how you are today and there is an improvement then that is great. If there is no improvement then you know you need to improve your efforts. Don’t start comparing your self to other people. Saying you are poor compared to D. Trump is just going to make you miserable.
10. There is no need for you to put yourself down.
y seeing yourself in a negative light you are only reinforcing your low self esteem. If you want to improve your self esteem. Ask yourself, how can I improve my self esteem. The answer will always be, find one positive thing about yourself and that will do it.
An excellent article, thankyou for posting it? i like that quote, “you are better to be a first rate version of yourself rather than a second rate version of somebody else”
Great list… #6 is one that really important, especially the part about getting emotionally involved in the information. Thanks for creating this!
#9 is the best
Yeap, agree with Lyman that #6 the most important. Nothing beats apply what you’ve learned into practice.
I really believe in #9. I compare my current self to last years’ self and come up with some pretty good improvements! I hope I’m always aware to realize the opportunity and act on it to improve myself when an opportunity presents itself.
Nice tips, i’m gonna try them and spread the word 🙂 Thanks!
Excellent post! I especially like # 9 and # 3.
A very inspiring article and set of rules to live by. Thank you.
Lyndon, some good ideas here although having debts and no job to pay them off, or to go out, and no friends but those that react like you’re pestering them when you try to do something. Just try doing social activities or meeting new friends when you can’t even afford the rent.
Get a job some say? Ten seven page application forms completed, and not a single one even gets acknowledged, let alone an interview. Often this is the case.
With this situation it’s very very hard to see positivity from any angle. Still I’m trying to make money and improve things by building my own business.
Wonderful article….. Thanks
This is terrific. Nice and to the point without lots of extra stuff. Very true and insightful. I especially enjoyed this line from #8: “I’m not talking an airy fairy chant in the mirror whilst naked. I mean take a positive slant on everything automatically.” Thanks so much!
thankyou for posting this article……..i experience many of those.and it really helped me
Easy to say or write but harder to do. Very helpfully if you are going to start change your self esteem and gives a lot to think about.
This is a great post. For me #10 really helped me. Thanks a lot!
Just a word on comparing yourself to others…
You dont know how people think or how happy they are, even if they seem lke they have everything. I used to be jealous of people who had what i thought was “everything” and then when i got to know them, realized they were miserable for one reason or another.
Everyone is human and probably at one time or another has shared your emotions. The only ability you should utilize is the ability to learn and by learning you will make yourself better.
My favorite part of this article is think positive. An addon to this is dont complain. No one cares or wants to hear it. Positivity is everything.
I also think #9 is the best. Not said often enough the way it’s said here. 🙂
You can always listen to Tony Robbins 😉
One sure fire way to boost your self esteam is to become an hero.
Nicely done. The article covers points that we all struggle with at one point or another in our life.
Brian Tracy says, “One of the marks of excellent people is that they never compare themselves with others. They only compare themselves with themselves and with their past accomplishments and future potential.”